Self Care and Red Hair
Self-care comes in many forms and shapes. Be it a candle-light bath or a day at the spa, a new tattoo or a trip to the hairdresser’s, self-care is an area of life that adults often neglect when there are more pressing issues on their mind and in their schedules.
For years I put myself last. I wore my old clothes regardless of how horrible they made me feel, to avoid making a budget for clothing items when money was tight. I rarely, if ever, used the bath rather than the shower at my old house, as there was never time for a mother to do that in a household with two working parents and a hectic child. By the end of my marriage, I had even stopped dying my hair and was letting the white grow out to avoid what I felt were ‘unnecessary’ trips to the hairdresser’s and needing to find a babysitter in order to go.
Needless to say, I was not a very happy person. Now I am by no means a shallow materialistic person, far from it. However we all need our time and space, if we are to put forth our best selves, not just for ourselves but even for others, including the family we give priority to at times at a cost.
In the same way that family and money as well as time all impose on our well-being schedule, so did COVID-19 measures and even fears in some cases, put dents in our usual self-care routines.
With hairdressers and beauticians closed, I found myself for the first time in three years, cutting off random single white hairs from my otherwise brown and cream two-tone hair and its dark brown regrowth. So needless to say, I was one of the people messaging my hairdresser at the first news that the salons could reopen.
I don’t often write about myself and my life in such a personal way. However COVID-19’s rules put big pressure on my spirits, which I usually cultivate through time for myself and expressing myself in my image. I am still awaiting the reopening of the tattoo parlour, where I plan to get not one but two new tattoos. So for the time being, I treated myself to the hair appointment that was meant to happen before the government temporarily shut down the salons and yes, that means I now have crimson hair!