Lies and 'YOU'
Lately I started watching some new series on Netflix. If anyone asked me what I am into, I wouldn’t even know what to say. I love mystery but I hate gore, so thrillers aren’t really something I often watch. On the other hand, probably due to my background in writing and my studies in fiction stories, I gravitate to any series, of any genre, that has characters that intrigue or allure me.
Intriguing can come in many forms I found. From the day I picked up that first Nicci French book in March of 2008, I never stopped being fascinated by psychological thrillers and if I could class the series You (2018 onwards) under any genre, that would be it.
However this article is not about the series, or even about the characters in the series. Rather it is about something that happens in the story which triggered one of those ‘moments of clarity’ for me. Without mentioning any spoilers, I will just say that the protagonist ‘Joe’, once he starts out using foul play to get to know the girl he likes, finds himself in a spiral of having to cover one move or lie after another and going on to deal with situations he never intended to get into.
Though thankfully I never dated a total psycho like Joe, there were many men who justified small or big lies to convince me to date them. (“Don’t we all?” you might be saying. I will have to disagree on that since I believe that if the truth won’t suffice then no relationship, be it with friends, family or romantic partners, could be good.)
For the sake of the argument, when someone DOES lie or go to lengths to deal with something in a less than above-board way, it is very usually the case that they must then keep feeding that lie or situation in order to cover it, digging a bigger hole for themselves to ever climb out of.
I’m sure that no habitual liar will change their ways just for reading this post. Nor can I save anyone from being lied to, with this post. However I can still give my two cents’ worth, which is that boring as it sounds, being honest and trustworthy from the start is by far the easiest way to navigate any of humans’ different forms of relationships and having a shot at making them work.