• Gisèle Schembri

About Love, True Love

Warning: This entry may contain spoilers to particular books/films/tele-series.

A very long time ago, on a different blog, I wrote a review about the mini-series based off the book Any Human Heart.

In it, I alluded to ‘the love of one’s life’ and went on to suggest that maybe Logan Mountstuart, the protagonist, likely never found a true match again after Freya, only because he had already experienced that kind of love that goes beyond anything else and nothing compares after that, whatever the reason why it ended.

This theme seems to be mirrored in the series I am currently watching, which is called Sex/Life and which I alluded to briefly on my blog recently.

I have just finished episode 5 out of the 8 that make up the first (and only season up to now) in the series and this particular episode seems to me to finally confirm that Billie is not, as she thinks, nostalgic for the sex, currently next to non-existent in her life, but rather for the connection she had with her now ex Brad.

When her seemingly too-perfect husband and father of her kids - Cooper - suggests that she views him as a second-best, Billie vehemently denies it. However as always, those who are right in the middle of a situation are the ones least likely to see it for what it is and as the viewer, I would have to say that Cooper, despite my dislike for totally anything he says or does, might be right.

The big house in the suburbs, the nanny only one phone call away and her precious kids keep Billie in her vast prison though she is in denial about it still. I cannot profess to know what will happen by the end of the season, but up to now I would say that her current reality as ‘Cooper’s wife’ is her choosing mind over heart as adults tell each other they ‘should’.

Other things that adults love to say are that love must be two-sided, that it can die a miserable death, and that compatibility, over emotions, are what can make a romantic partnership work.

Here I must quote a third series - White Heat - where Victor, who is totally in love with Charlotte, very wisely points out that, “We do not choose who to love.” I will also mention the most heart-wrenching scene (at least for me) in the otherwise comedic film Four Weddings and a Funeral, where Fiona finally admits to Charles that “It’s always been you.” She admits her love even knowing full well that she is baring her heart for no reason other than to come clean. For Charles doesn’t even need to tell her what is so blatantly obvious, which is that for him she is a treasured best friend but only a friend.

I have heard it said that authors (and by association then even script-writers) tend to write about what they know. I cannot speak for the people who made up all the characters I mentioned and gave them lives and loves both reciprocated and not. What I can admit, though, is that this recurring theme jumps out at me from any story simply because I do ‘know’ a thing or two about what people might profess is the ‘love of their life’.

I have lived one epic love story. I have even written three totally varied books inspired by it up to now. Since typing things out rather than saying them face to face is way easier for me, I will also admit that I do love that person still. With all my heart, and my soul. Being that I believe in reincarnation, I also believe that should it not be in this lifetime, that union will someday happen still. So maybe, just maybe, rather than hide behind the hundred and one reasons why I am currently single again, I should finally embrace the truth that come what may, even should I focus on all the other facets of my life than ever really look for a partner again, I am missing out on nothing because I still carry that love feeling with me every day.

Image by mskathrynne from Pixabay


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